The Serial Bully

[nirvana]

This might be of interest, it certainly encapsulates many of the traits shown by my stalker/troll/bullyboy.

http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm

The Attention-Seeker

Motivation: to be the centre of attention
Mindset: control freak, manipulation, narcissism
Malice: medium to high; when held accountable, very high

* emotionally immature
* selectively friendly - is sickly sweet to some people, rude and offhand to others, and ignores the rest
* is cold and aggressive towards anyone who sees them for what they really are or exposes their strategies for gaining attention
* overfriendly with their new target, especially in the initial stages of a new working relationship
* overhelpful, ditto
* overgenerous, ditto
* manipulative of people's perceptions, but in an amateur and childish manner
* manipulative with guilt, ditto
* sycophantic, fawning, toadying
* uses flattery to keep a person in authority on side
* everything is a drama, usually a poor-me drama
* prefers not to solve problems in own life so that they can be used and re-used for gaining sympathy and attention
* capitalises on issues and uses them as a soapbox for gaining attention
* exploits others' suffering and grief as a vehicle for gaining attention
* misappropriates others' statements, eg anything which can be misconstrued as politically incorrect, for control and attention-seeking
* excusitis, makes excuses for everything
* shows a lot of indignation, especially when challenged
* lots of self-pity
* often as miserable as sin, apart from carefully constructed moments of charm when in the act of deceiving
* demanding of others
* easily provoked
* feigns victimhood when held accountable, usually by bursting into tears or claiming they're the one being bullied and harassed
* presents as a false victim when outwitted
* may feign exclusion, isolation or persecution
* malicious
* constantly tries and will do almost anything to be in the spotlight
* includes Munchausen Syndrome
* the focus of their life is to be the centre of attention

[Bluebonnet]

I definitely recognize many of these in my stalker. good info, thanks!

[stalked2]

Boy, you can say that again... Almost every one of these is my stalker / on line bully. Amazing how well they tag these people!

[watchingme]

Sad people, but will they change?

[Billwalsh]

MY stalker breaks the mold of all of that

[Alma]

Finally a place that understands what being staked is like!!!!!!!!! Hello everyone!

[Flayme]

Welcome - it may sound corny, but "You are not alone!"